Understanding What Women and Men Truly Want

A good date involves knowing a bit about what both men and women want in a partner, so you can calibrate your strategy (which is why, at the end of a second date, they will ask: ‘Are you a relationship person?’) and also because you will be on the right track immediately. Women often say they want a kind, intelligent man, one with emotional intelligence, one who isn’t boastful, but instead is confident, and humorous, and can also be serious when he needs to be.

But authenticity, respect and an aura of adventure also appeal to men at the back end of their courting instincts. Particularly if they are on a date with a woman who will stride into the room and, knowing what she wants, whether it’s a man, a drink or a shot, will go and get it. It takes a balanced appreciation of these differences to determine whether you are dealing with wonder or a man-eater and how then to engage.

Mastering the Art of First Impressions

Many relationships fail to progress beyond the first date because there was something subliminally missing. It is of utmost importance, therefore, that you get off to the right start – both literarily and figuratively. When it comes to language, say what is appropriate. Act with confidence, not arrogance. Your posture, your eye contact, your gestures and the way you stand or sit as you enter should confer a sense of self-assurance but should not over-state or assert too much.

The Power of Body Language

You know what they say about body language: it’s notoriously silent and knowing what many people don’t will put you ahead of the pack. Maintaining eye contact helps present an interested persona, as does sitting up straight and – perhaps most importantly – keeping your arms and hands unfolded. Crossing your arms could send the impression that you are, quite literally, shutting your date out. A genuine smile can also help your date loosen up, allowing for a more relaxed, and therefore, enjoyable moment.

Appropriate Dressing

Subtle (and sometimes less subtle) body language components are at play in first impressions as well. There’s more to getting dressed for success than putting on the most expensive clothes you can afford. (In fact, that should be a criterion for elimination because expensive clothing can often be the opposite of inexpensive or ‘cheap’ clothing.) Find out who you are and dress to suit your personality. Adapt as needed to each situation: as long as your clothing and accessories convey your essence, you’ll be fine. Pay attention to your grooming. Neatness leaves an impression. Strive to look your best – clean and shiny – by clothed choices that inspire your confidence as well as your comfort.

The Science of Meaningful Conversations

Nothing is more important to a successful date than good conversation. It requires knowing when to speak, and when to listen. Good listeners are appreciated, and you will quickly find out if you are appreciated.

Start with Open-Ended Questions

Ask questions that deserve a real answer. I doubt anyone – except maybe your mum – wants to hear if you brushed your teeth this morning. A question like ‘Are you a morning person or a night person?’ is destined to solicit only a yes or no answer. Better questions – ‘What’s something you’re really into?’ or ‘Tell me about the best trip you’ve ever taken’ – afford your date the opportunity to elaborate.

Active Listening is Key

Most people just listen to replies. The ability to actively listen is a powerful way of showing your date that you are fully invested in what they have to say, a skill that seems obvious but is quite rare. It involves nodding, making eye contact, and occasionally recapping or reflecting on what’s being said, so that it all seems more genuine and opens further layers of engagement.

Navigating Online Dating: Best Practice

Because online dating introduces us to so many people, especially in bigger cities, we get lots of chances get to know them, at least from a distance. But to win, you have to have a sense of how to put forth your best self in the new online environment.

Optimizing Your Dating Profile

Getting your dating profile picture right will help to make sure that potential matches get off on the right foot in judging you. Be sure to select a flattering photo as your primary picture. Include one action shot – a photo of someone doing something fun like running or at a party – so that people can get a taste of what you are like; it also helps people warm to you a bit more emotionally. Try to avoid photos of couples, groups of people or anything that makes it difficult to figure out who you are.

In the bio, for instance, be genuine and steer clear of trite phrasing. Avoid: ‘My favorite things are to go to new places and try new things.’ Instead, say: ‘Last year, I travelled through Thailand and backpacked for three months, and that was the best experience of my life.’ You’ll give the so-called ‘market’ a better sense of who you are and what gets you going.

Mastering the Art of Messaging

If you’re sending the first message, don’t use a generic opener such as ‘Hey, how are you?’ Personalize it by prodding at something in their profile. Or compliment them by referencing something specific they listed in their profile – a mutual interest, an intriguing picture, something they wrote in their bio that caught your eye.

Avoiding Common Dating Pitfalls

Dating is fun but you can also commit all the mistakes that can derail your progress. Here are some mistakes you can easily avoid.

Coming On Too Strong

One of the most common gaffes is displaying too much interest too early, which can make a date feel too rushed or overwhelmed. Let the relationship grow and develop at a pace comfortable for the two of you. Patience is a virtue.

Oversharing Personal Details

The second mistake is to share details about your own life and circumstances too much, too soon. You should, of course, be honest, but one person’s level of honesty can be another’s invasion of privacy; sharing too many personal details will often undermine a new relationship. Sharing information as a way to build trust. Don’t share until you can start trusting. Try to avoid sharing topics that are too sensitive or personal until a degree of intimacy has been established.

Being Distracted During the Date

If you’re constantly checking your phone or otherwise looking like you have something else on your mind, you’re sending a message loud and clear on your date. Be present and show your date respect by allowing her your full attention.

Building Emotional Connections

The secret of enduring relationships is a bond of the heart. Emotional connection is a deeper and more lasting bond than attraction.

Vulnerability and Openness

Vulnerability is intimate. If you are honest about your thoughts and feelings, and let your fears show, you invite your partner to do the same. You’ll need to read your partner’s moods carefully though. If you are too forceful, still too scared, still too angry, or in pain, then doing too much too soon will hurt them.

Sharing Experiences

There’s nothing like doing something new together; sharing an unfamiliar restaurant, an outing or several glasses of vino, are moments when lasting memories are formed. And of course, you can also talk whilst making something.

Keeping the Fire Burning In A Long Term Relationship.

Of course, in a relationship, you’re never without flame, and staying committed and growing for the long haul would appear to be vital to any relationship.

Prioritize Communication

Be communicative. Staying in touch is a key ingredient for a healthy relationship. Tell your partner what you’re experiencing and what you require from them to maintain your relationship. It is the lack of communications that prevent miscommunications between partners, and this leads to resentment.

Maintain Individual Interests

Though you two must spend some time together, you should also have each of their interests. Independence keeps relationships resonant; it keeps things exciting. And if your partner has interests that allow you to live separately, make sure you do.

Spontaneity and Surprises

Don’t repeat yourself over and over; every so often, give a bit of the unexpected in to keep things interesting. Create an unusual date night or weekend. Send them a sweet note or joke in their lunchbox. Go to a movie, concert or hike. Set up something that they’ll actually enjoy.

Conclusion: How to Win Dating Easily.

Discovering the secrets to good dating involves some combination of self-knowledge, communication, and a keen sense of what you and your date are interested in. And when you work on these areas, you will go a long way towards forming meaningful relationships that result in relationships.

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